Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Migraines-They're Not Just For Middle Aged Hormonal Women Anymore

I've posted on here before about Georgia's ongoing problem with migraines.  Well, in the past year, they have changed a bit and I became concerned that it was something more.  Because you know, well maybe you don't, but I tend to be a tiny bit of a hypochondriac.  I am WAY better than I used to be, but I am one of those people who always goes to worse case scenario.  Pain in my head=tumor.  Pain in my chest=heart attack.  Never mind that I work out six days a week, eat fairly well, and have low cholesterol.  It's a heart attack.  Pain in my upper back=breast cancer. I was a lot worse in my late 20s.  I've gotten over it for the most part, but I still tend to think doom and gloom when something seems off.  So, when Georgia's migraines started to change, I worried a bit that perhaps they weren't migraines at all, but something far worse.  Before I knew it, in my head, I had us checking into L.A.'s Children's Hospital.  Since I didn't want to go to far down crazy road, I decided to be rational and go back to the neurologist who diagnosed her a year and a half ago.


As I said, the reason I was worried was because the symptoms themselves changed. When she first got them, out of nowhere, she would say she didn't feel good, moved to- she was going to "frow up", followed by- actual "frowing up" for about 5 hours, and ending with- her passing out for the night.  This used to happen about once every 5-6 months.  Over the summer it started to change.  Now she will wake up any given morning and complain of being dizzy.  If she has gotten out of bed, she will lay down halfway down the hall to our room and whine that she is too dizzy to walk.  I will pick her up and she immediately puts her head down on my shoulder, with her eyes closed, clinging to me for dear life, until I lay her down in bed or on the couch.  Within a few minutes the threat of "frowing up" starts.   Sometimes it takes a couple false alarms, but eventually she starts the cycle of ridding anything that may be left in her stomach from the night before.  She is pale, clammy and can't move or really keep her eyes open.  Now, instead of lasting all day, this will end sometime in the early afternoon.  Better, right?  Yeah, except that it happens all over again the next two mornings, although each subsequent day it ends sooner than it did the day before.  Also, instead of getting them every 5-6 months, she now gets them every 6-8 weeks.  Oh yeah, fun times I tell ya!  It takes us out of whatever we were supposed to do for now almost 3 days.  When she gets these I can't go anywhere, besides to pick up or drop off the other girls, and I NEED to make my Target runs every week.   So you can see why this much of a change had me a bit worried.


I do feel so bad for her every time she gets hit with one too.  She is miserable and feels terrible.  So let me take a minute to have a tiny tangent and address two types of people out there.  The true migraine sufferers and the ones who claim to have a migraine.  Those of you who say you have a migraine and are still walking around talking, eating, going about your day, let me re diagnose you.  You have a HEADACHE.  If you had a true migraine, you wouldn't be doing ANY of those things.  Take a couple of Motrin and shut up about it.   I never quite got it before, because I myself have never experienced a migraine.  In fact, I rarely get headaches at all, except when I'm sick.  However, seeing my child go through it so often, I get it now.  So for those of you who truly get migraines and can't leave the house for a day, I am so sorry and I apologize for any doubt you get from those around you, or perhaps even from me in the past.  I can see how horrible an experience it is.  Okay-end of tangent.


So anyway, I had briefly talked to my sister Megan, the nurse, about what was going on and she encouraged me to go get her checked out again.  She mentioned that there was a chance she might need an MRI, but she didn't know for sure, because this was not her area of expertise.  That idea freaked me and Andy out, but we wanted to do what needed to be done.


So last week, off we went to Pasadena to visit Dr. Michelle.  I love this woman.  She is no nonsense, yet sensitive enough to understand a parents worry.  Perhaps it's because she's a parent herself.  I told her everything that was happening and how much had changed.  She asked me a few questions, like if she was sweaty, or complained of head pain.  Yes sweaty, no head pain, just the dizzies.  Then she let me know that they don't usually complain of head pain until seven or eight.  Oh yay!  Something to look forward to in 4 years!  She did a brief exam on Georgia, checked out her eyes, ears, reflexes, made her hop on one foot, that kind of thing.  When all was said and done the diagnosis was... still migraines.  This is apparently how they change as the sufferer gets older.


"Sooo, the way it's changed into how it is now, all that is normal?" I asked.


"Oh yeah.  She is a textbook case of toddler migraines," she assured me.  "I'm not surprised you came back."


"And the fact that she gets them a few days in a row?" I asked.


"Clusters," she said matter of fact.  This I understood, because my mom suffered from cluster headaches in her 30s.


Then she told me the plan was to put her on a prescription antihistamine for two months.  Antihistamine!  Who knew?!  It has something in it that helps block the migraines from starting at all.  The only side effect was  that it might make her a little sleepy, so I am to give it to her before bedtime.  Side effect?  Making her fall asleep quicker when I put her to bed so she doesn't get up ten times?  That's not a side effect, that a plus in my book.  So, we go back in two months to meet with her and assess the situation.  If it works, then she takes her off of it and she can go up to a year without having a migraine.  I'm not really sure how taking medication for only two months keeps her from getting a migraine for a year, but if it works, I'll take it!


Before she left the room, I just had to make sure,


"So she still doesn't need an MRI to check anything out?"


"Oh no!" She told me again, "This is a textbook case of how the migraines develop.  No need to put her through an MRI."


That made me breathe a sigh of relief in more than one way.  First of all, no MRI.  I mean who wants their tiny three year old in one of those gigantic loud machines?  Secondly, I LOVE the fact that she used the word "textbook" case.  There was no question of what it could be, or that this sounds weird, or that doesn't look right, just that she fits right into the migraine category.  The way it looks, she probably always will.  Don't get me wrong, it's not awesome that she gets these, but at least a migraine is a thousand times better than where my worst case scenario head goes.



Monday, February 6, 2012

It Only Sounded Bad

Last week one morning after breakfast, while Lana was in the bathroom:


Lana- "Urgh! My eyes water every morning when I wake up."


Me- "Oh yeah.  Are you going to be all right?"


Lana- "Yeah.  I think it's because I drink too much at night."


That one and I  have more in common every day.  Even if she was just referring to water.  

Thursday, February 2, 2012

Mastering a New Trait

Georgia is at an age where she doesn't always want to listen to me and can sometimes be difficult to deal with.  However, she's still got just enough of that toddler cuteness to her, that I can't always get mad at her.  Plus her being difficult is still angelic compared to what Lana, and even  Sonya, put me through at this age.  Every once in a while she will get a time out. Which is never compared to Lana's daily (sometimes thrice daily) time outs when she was three.  When she does go to time out, she cries the entire time.  Then when I go to get her, she immediately hugs me and says how sorry she is.  She does NOT like anyone being upset with her, or getting in trouble.  Then there is the latest thing she does, which I hate to admit, gets her immediately out of any trouble she may be brewing.


There are times when she will ask me for things she knows I'm going to say no to, like a treat or a TV show.  A lot of those times her sisters are making her ask.  I guess they think I'm more likely to say yes to her, which I'm really not.  When she asks me she will always give me this hopeful little look with her cute dimpled smile, and a sparkle in her eye.  You know the kind of look that says "look how cute I am!  Don't you want to give me what I want?"  When I've gotten this look from her in the past I always stop and smile at her, tell her how cute she is before declining her request for whatever it is she is asking for.  Although, I will admit I've given in to that look a time or two.   She also uses this look when she's about to get in trouble for something bad she did.  


About two weeks ago, she was doing one of those troublesome things.  I can't remember exactly what it was, but you know, something fun like writing on the floor, or taking all the shoes out of my closet, or maybe it was making the huge mess in Sonya's room.  Who knows?  Anyway, I gave her my mom, "you're going to be in trouble if you don't knock it off" look.  Then she came back at me with her little "look how cute I am with my inherited dimple from you" smile.  I immediately found myself trying not to smile back at her and she could tell I was softening.  Before I could tell her she was cute, but she was in trouble she looked at me and said,


"You cute mommy!"


REALLY??  Oookkkaayyy....here's some more markers to write on the floor and my best shoes are out of reach, so let me just get those down for you.  


That remark took me right out of any anger I might have had at that point.  How could it not?  I only wish there was a way to take those moments, wrap them up and put them away.  That way I could pull it back out again when she starts to roll her eyes at me in a few years, and remember how damn cute she used to be when she did something wrong.


Since last week, she tells me how cute I am every time she gives me that look and I start to smile back at her.  It got her out of trouble for the first few times, but I'm on to her now.  I always thought Sonya had the corner on manipulation.  Turns out Georgia may be the master.  Or at least she's definitely figuring out how to master it.  


Nice.



Monday, January 30, 2012

Adorable Giraffe Cupcakes

This past weekend was Kennedy's first birthday.  Kennedy is the daughter of my best friend Melissa, and I wrote about her here when she was first born.  Okay first of all, how the hell has it been a year already?!  Second of all...well there really isn't a second of all, just why does time go by so fast lately?  Anyway, I had promised Melissa a while ago, that I would make Kennedy's birthday cake.  I've made all my girls' birthday cakes using Wilton cake pans and made them character cakes, like Tinkerbell, Elmo, Mickey, Minnie or Spider Man.  They're time consuming, but I really like doing it.  It's fun to see the end result of all the work you just did and I've always loved baking anyway.  It's my inner Martha Stewart.  So at one point I promised I would make Kennedy's cake using the same type of Wilton cake pans.  Partially, because I love doing it and Melissa is my best friend, but mostly because she doesn't really have an inner Martha Stewart.  I  didn't want Kennedy to have a store bought cake for her first birthday!  The HORROR!  The question was, what kind of cake did she want?


Melissa's favorite animal is a giraffe, so as of right now, Kennedy has a bunch of giraffe toys, clothes, bedding, towels, etc in her life.  So the obvious choice for the cake was a giraffe, but the pan that Wilton has for a giraffe wasn't really what Melissa wanted.  She had decided on a little jungle animal theme for Kennedy's party and I found a pan that Wilton made of a monkey and he was super cute, so she decided to go with that instead.  He did, indeed, turn out super cute:



I made a vanilla cake, and the icing was mostly chocolate.  He wasn't too difficult to decorate either.  Other cakes I've done have been more of a project (I'm looking at YOU Spider Man!)  

I decided earlier in the week, that I was going to make some cupcakes to go along with Mr. Monkey and I really wanted to satisfy Melissa's love for giraffes by turning the cupcakes into little giraffes.  I researched giraffe cupcakes on line and found a bunch, but none that I was crazy about.  Half of them were made using Fondant (yuck-no offense to anyone who likes it, but yuck) and the other half I just didn't think were that cute.  So I decided to tap into that part of my creative genes I got from my mom.  She teaches first grade and always has a creative solution to an idea like this.  I wanted to try and figure it out for myself first, before I decided if I needed help.

I took a trip to Target and found a few things I thought would work to form the giraffe's features and here is what I ended up with:

 TA-DA!


Yes he IS totally adorable!! Thank you!  For those of you who would like to try and make these guys, here are my step by step instructions.  

What you need:

Cupcakes
tootsie rolls
banana chips
Wilton eyes
butter cream frosting
chocolate frosting
Golden Yellow Wilton color
Black Wilton color
Wilton icing bags
tip #3
OR
chocolate chips and a black gel icing pen

First you need to make cupcake, of course, chocolate or vanilla, whichever you prefer.  I made chocolate since the cake was already vanilla.  Then I made some butter cream frosting, using butter and powdered sugar.  No, I do NOT use shortening.  That just makes it gross.  I also do not do store bought icing, but if you're short on time, I won't fault you for it.  Then I colored the icing using Wilton coloring, Golden Yellow.  I frosted all the cupcakes for the base of the giraffe.  

Next I cut the end 1/4 off the tootsie roll and then cut the larger part of the tootsie roll in half.  The two halves I molded with my fingers into the antenna for the giraffe:




The little eyes I found in Target in the baking section.  Wilton makes them and you can use them for any kind of face cupcake you're making.  They're candy, so they're edible.  After I placed the eyes where I wanted, I took the leftover piece of tootsie roll and flattened it out for the mouth area.  In earlier versions of the cupcake I used chocolate icing for the mouth area, but I found this looked cleaner.



Next, I stuck the banana chips on the sides for the ears.  I tried to find some that were on the smaller side, but the ones with larger chips (ears) came out looking really cute too.  It was fun because they were all different.



I had made chocolate icing to decorate the monkey cake, so I dyed some of that black to make the mouth and the nostrils, using Wilton tip #3.  However, if you don't have chocolate frosting, one of those black gel icing pens you can find in the baking section of the grocery store would work.  



The last thing I did was put on his spots.  I used chocolate icing for this as well (with Wilton tip #3) but, I also did an alternative.  Again, this way you don't technically need to make or buy chocolate icing.  I used chocolate chips instead of the icing.  Upon a second look, mini chocolate chips might work better.  As far as these two go,  I will say that I think the ones with the non-uniform icing spots looked a little better than the chocolate chips, but that's just me.  

icing
chocolate chips


Here a few of them together.  You can see how they transformed as I got better ideas:




And here is how I like to roll while creating; wine and my soaps on the computer.  Do I know how to multitask or what?  


Yes, this is something I have to do well after the girls are in bed.  If I tried to do it during the day, they would have wanted to help and who knows what I would have ended up with.  Anyway-I wanted to share the way I  made the giraffe cupcakes in case anyone else out there in baking land is looking for some cuter/easier ideas than what is currently posted.  I have to admit, I was pretty proud of myself for coming up with these all on my own.  I knew I could follow directions to make something creative, like the cake, but who knew I could come up with something so cute all by myself!  Thanks mom for that Martha Stewart gene!



Wednesday, January 25, 2012

SHOES!

I don't know if I've ever mentioned on here before, but Lana is very into dressing girlie.  If I ever want her to wear any type of pants I have to bribe her. Usually in the form of chocolate or a trip to Disneyland.  She loves any kind of skirt or dress and bonus points if it's pink or sparkly.  So it was no surprise when she insisted she needed ANOTHER pair of sparkly shoes when we were in Payless yesterday.  Then she proceeded to have a major tantrum when I denied her those shoes, which by the way, looked almost exactly like the ONES SHE ALREADY HAD ON.


Tuesday mornings are "Lana and Mommy Day".  The other two are in school, so some Tuesdays I try to get  errands done in the morning before I pick up Georgia from school at noon.  It's usually easier to do running around with only one of them, except when they decide to flip out for some reason.  It had been a while for Lana since she had such a public display of badness, so it kind of caught me off guard.  We went to Payless because I had to get her and Georgia ballet slippers for the dance class they have been taking.  I was looking at ballet slippers when Lana wandered down the aisle and came across some shoes she apparently had to have.  They were princess pink and sparkly. She walked over to me with shoes in hand. 


"Mom, can I get dees, pleeeeaasee?" She asked me hopefully. "Day fit me!"


She had already taken the liberty of trying them on, which looking back now, was smart on her part.  I looked at the shoes in the box and I looked at the pink sparkly princess shoes she already had on her feet.  Then I said,


"Lana, they are just like the ones you have on.  You're not getting them."


"NO THEY'RE NOT!"  She insisted.  "See deese ones have jewels on dem," she said pointing to the toe of the shoe.  


She was right, they did indeed have jewels where her own did not, but I was not about to buy ANOTHER pair of pink sparkly shoes because of a couple pieces of jewel shaped plastic.  Not to mention the fact that she has a pair of silver sparkly shoes, which I bought for her at the beginning of the school year, and a pair of pink sparkly TOMS my friend Sooz gave her for Christmas.  (Sooz works for TOMS so all the girls got pink sparkly TOMS shoes.  They are so cute.  Thanks Sooz!).  So that makes THREE pairs of sparkly shoes,  two of them already being pink.  I was drawing the line.


"Lana," I said calmly, "you are not getting those shoes today."


She could tell this was one of those times I wasn't going to change my mind, so she started the whining, whimpering, and eventually, sobbing.  


"PLLLLEEEAAASSEE!!!" She cried.  "I WANT THEM!"


Oh well, if you WANT them then....


"No, Lana.  Not today," I said again.  I tried to redirect her to some Hello Kitty socks that I was looking at for her.  She needed new socks, so I thought perhaps at least if she was getting something else she would be happy, but no.  They were not the shoes she wanted, so the tantrum continued.  


 The good thing was there was only one other person in the store and the clerk, so at least she wasn't making a spectacle in front of a ton of people.  Still, it's embarrassing in front of anyone.  She lied on the floor and sobbed about how she NEEDED the shoes.  How much she LOVED the shoes. How much she HAD TO HAVE THE SHOES!  I tried ignoring her at first, but I should know better because that never works with her.  So I finally got down on the floor next to her and spoke calmly.  


"Lana, I am not buying the shoes for you today," I started.  "I don't have enough money to get you the ballet slippers and the shoes."  I figured if I put it on me and take it off the fact that she doesn't NEED another pair of sparkly shoes, she would be more willing to accept it.  "Now, if you don't stop crying, I'm not going to buy you the ballet slippers or Hello Kitty socks either.   I need you to take a couple deep breaths and count to ten."


This is something I've been doing with her for a couple months now.  When she gets out of control with one of her tantrums, I work with her on focusing on her breathing and counting to ten to calm herself down.  I would say 80% of the time this works.  Luckily, this was one of those times.  She stood up, wiped her eyes and took two deep breaths.  Then she counted to ten.  Once she calmed down she said,


"Can I pick out some socks?"


"Of course," I answered.  "And good calming down Lana."


Then she looked at me and said, "When you get some more money, can we come back and get the shoes?"


That kid does not let things go.  


"We'll see," I said, trying to avoid another break down.


Once we were safely in the car, and out of earshot for anyone to hear another tantrum, I talked to her about her behavior in the store.  I told her I didn't like the tantrum she had, especially in front of other people, but I was proud of her for calming down.  She apologized and promised not to do it again, (yeah right!)  Then I explained  how she already had three pairs of sparkly shoes, and perhaps when she outgrew those three pairs, THEN we could come back and get her the ones in the store.  She understood, and because she was in a less emotional and more logical place at that point, agreed with me.  



I'd like to think she's going to forget all about this, but again, that child will not let something like this fall through the cracks.  So, who wants to bet that in six months, when all of those shoes she has now don't fit her feet anymore, I'm going to be begged to go back to Payless for those beloved, bejeweled, pink, sparkly princess shoes.  I mean, after all, they ARE different!

Monday, January 23, 2012

All She Wants For Christmas...

 I guess we're to late for that song, but look who lost ANOTHER tooth.  That makes six so far.  Losing those top two has made her look like such a grown up kid.  I know she's only going to look even older when those top permanent teeth make their awkward appearance.  They always look so big!  How the hell did she get to be at this stage of childhood already?  I swear it was just yesterday when I was squishing her with a swaddle and shushing in her ear, just to get her to stop screaming for five minutes.  I think I do enjoy this stage better though, despite all the eye rolling.




Friday, January 20, 2012

Unexplained Food Mysteries

Last night during dinner, Georgia dropped one of her tomatoes on the ground by accident.  When it happened she looked over at me not sure what to do and I said,


"Go on, get down and pick it up."


She climbed out of her booster seat, disappeared underneath the table for 30 seconds, then climbed back up into her seat.  After settling herself, she looked around her plate and said,


"Weaw my tomato go?"


"Isn't it on your place mat?" I asked.


She looked around, picked up her napkin.  Nothing.  We looked under her chair, I made her stand up at her seat, to look under her.  Still nothing.  


"Georgia, where did it go?  Did you eat it?"  I asked.


"NO!" She insisted, and I believed her.  Then she shrugged her shoulders and said to me,


"It must have wawked away."


"It did not walk away," I told her.  "What did you do with it?" I still wasn't positive that she didn't have it hidden somewhere.  Although that didn't make much sense, because she loves tomatoes and wanted one to replace the missing one.  


Then she said again, "It must have just wawked away!"


"Fine, Georgia, it walked away.  Finish your food," I told her.  


I let it go figuring I'd find it when I cleaned up later.  Turns out I didn't.  I honestly have no idea what the hell happened to it.  Now all I have is a picture in my head of a cherry tomato, with little feet, hightailing for my back door.  So maybe she was right and it did just "wawk" away.  Or maybe I will find a decomposed cherry tomato underneath my washing machine years from now.